Commitment Phobia | Female Forum

You guys make me feel normal. :D

Thank you for the encouraging words; I think I will keep on doing what I am doing. I think I will put a little more thought into getting a pet. It would be nice to have someone to come home to that loves me. Although a boyfriend would (hopefully) not chew up my shoes! I?ll have to look into therapy. Perhaps someone can tell me where all this is coming from.

I think the beginning of my no commitment phase came after I dated this guy named Dylan for about six months. I liked him, and then I started to fall into a holding pattern with him. It got really repetitive, and the only reason I stayed with him is because his family was cool. I felt like things got super stale no matter what I did, and I would look back at other relationships and remember that same kind of holding pattern. Then the ?romance? part would taper off, then the boy would go away, or cheat, or whatever, and I would resume the same type of pattern with a different person.

Friendships are very different. My best friend and I have been best friend for 8 years, my gay BFF and I have been friends for 20. Another 18 years, another 16 years. I have some new friends too, but most of my crew has been around for at least 5. And 90% of them are male. My best friend is male, and me and his wife are also really good friends. My gay BFF is male. My only real female friends are my roommate (who is also my ex-girlfriend, which is kind of odd, but not with us) and my best friend?s wife (my roommate?s sister). We have a weird, interbred circle because we have all been together as friends so long. I also have a very good relationship with my parents, and both of my brothers.

I don?t have any mental disorders that I know of. I?m OCD about some things, but who isn?t? I like a spotless house, what can I say?

I will look into Match.com. My mom has suggested it before as a possibility. I think it would be unfair though to date guys who are spending money on a website to find their soulmate when I?m not even 20% sure I?d want to commit to them or anyone else. It seems? like I?d be lying to them or something.

I am kind of a control freak. I don?t like sleeping next to people and I like my space.

I met a new CUTE guy yesterday; I invited him to hang out with my friends and I at a bar tomorrow. Perhaps if we end up hitting it off for reals, I will try keeping my own space my own instead of letting him share it. And, if I really like this guy, I?ll go to a shrink and get some professional advice.

You all have been super sweet and helpful. Thank you for putting my mind at ease! :D Happy Solstice!

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